Its kind of insane to think about…one minute youre a bar hopping concert goer and the next you are thinking of a good neighborhood to move your family into…I would say that is a pretty accurate description of my life right now.
Exactly two years ago I was in a different world. I was living with my great-grandmother, not because I had to as I held a good job and was fully capable of getting a place but because I wanted to..a responsibility of taking care of her I took on. I spent my nights off from work going to bars and drinking or playing pool with my friend and several of his friends. My dating luck was pretty bad..I was trying online dating but no real luck and I was trying to chase after someone who had completely friend zoned me…I was aimless and without a real purpose in life. Was I happy with this life? I honestly cant say I was..but I wasnt depressed, just in need of a change.
Flash-forward 2 years to 2016. As I sit here typing this, I am now an engaged man. I met the complete love of my life in late 2014 on a dating app which I installed on a whim and expected nothing from. I am sitting in my rented cottage on furniture I inherited from my Great-Grandma who passed away on Christmas almost 2 years ago. In the bedroom sleeps my beautiful Fiance… the love of my life with whom I never want to leave for as long as I live. Next to her is our amazing,gorgeous and sweet 9 month old daughter. A gift that I would never call an accident. The truly great child that her and I made together when our DNA combined and coalesced into the greatness of our daughter.
I am now a family man..I get married on August 27th. I now only go out every once in a blue moon, and I spend most of my nights hanging out and watching Netflix with the missus while we try to get our little one to sleep, I would not trade my life for anything. Our dream is to own a home and one day to retire and live out our days watching our daughter (and any future children) grow up and get married and make grandchildren….I live an amazing life, who needs to be a 20something bar hopper? it gets pretty boring anyway…
Stay safe out there (and go Team Mystic!!!)
After about a year of debates, declarations,promises (broken and unbroken) it looks like we finally have our nominees for the next president…business mogul and media tycoon Donad Trump and former first lady and senator Hilary Clinton. I cant say im pleased with either nominee but the American people have spoken (in a sense) and declared these two people the main competitors to the greatest process in human history…A free and democratic election…well as free as you can make it.
Im not going to talk about the merits or lack of for either of these two people though..I dont want to sway anybody’s opinion either way..But my hopes and dreams for the future of this country are quickly fading and neither of these two people are doing anything to change it.
Almost 240 years ago, this country was founded on the basis that people could live a life free of the tyranny of those who would try and make decisions for you…the founding fathers believed that the people of those 13 colonies deserved the right to choose their own leader, and their own government and be free to make their own decisions on their future, and for many years thats what we followed..to an extent.
The Bill of rights outlines that we have the right to say what we want, be it in speech,word or any other medium without threats made against us, that we have the right to choose our religion or lack thereof and nobody can tell you that you cannot do that and various other “rights” that formed up the very basis of how our country was founded, and yet there are so many people in this country that seem to believe that those rights are too much.
This country, the country that I love and was born in and would never dream of leaving is becoming so fractured,broken and uncaring, that its almost scary. We prop up people like Donald Trump who perpetuates hate and bigotry (he was even nominated for president) while people who try to bring about a change to make the world a better more caring place…people who radiate acceptance and peace and call them radical dreamers and dirty hippies (or the worst one ive heard, libtards) Now im not trying to put people on the liberal side of the fence up on a pedestal because many of them are just as bad as their conservative friends, im just trying to make a point.
We live in a world that is so divided on almost every issue that it is incredibly scary. I have a 7 month old daughter and I am petrified that she is going to grow up into a world that is almost completely unaccepting of those who are different than the loosely defined “normal”.
The reason I have brought up politics and the election in the first place is because no issue in this country is perhaps as scarily divisive as which side of the political fence you sit on. Over the last decade (especially since Barack Obama took office) ive seen through the news, in person and through the internet just how bad the political divide is. People that identify as republican think that all democrats are “libtards” and “just idiot young people that dont work for anything and want government handouts”or that they are “basically wannabe commies” and people that identify as democrat think of rebublicans as “dumbass racist hicks” and “Klan supporters” or “Nazis”. It is just horrible how bad these people get when the groups are intermingled. Fights, screaming matches and even some deaths have happened just because people disagree on politics. I rarely even talk about my political beliefs and people who dont even know me judge me as a “young idiot kid with no real world experience”.
This has to stop..I wish there were a way we could all stop fighting over something as stupid as who you support for president or if you support gun laws or how a person goes to college..this just wont work for the future…acceptance and tolerance is one of the hallmarks of our society and yet we are slipping back to times when nobody was tolerant over anything….
Rant over for now…keep it civil people
- Diaper changes are not nearly as dramatic as advertised…most of the time (those blowouts can get pretty messy though
- We can all learn a little from babies..they like to just sit there and laugh for no reason and we all could use a little of that.
- When you have a child, no matter what you do, you must be sure that the baby is okay..from taking a shower to making a sandwich to finally drifting off to sleep.
- 8 hours sleep is overrated…4 or 5 hours with small naps throughout the day is just as good!
- I have a whole new appreciation for my fiance. She is definitely the strong one in this relationship as I never had to push a person out of me!
- After you have a child, you tend to forget to do something…like eat, or shower or change out of your pajamas
- Im so thankful for having a girl! No projectile pee has gotten on me!!!!
- Even in the most tender moment you have with your child, be prepared for the inevitable spit up (if you dont want any on you, dont have a child)
- Always be vigilant! Even when they are sleeping peacefully, they can wake up at a moments notice and be sure they are hungry, and upset!.
- Get a swing…they are lifesavers when you need somewhere to set them down that wont make them upset.
- Weight and height percentiles were invented to scare parents into thinking their child is unhealthy. As long as they are growing and gaining weight, there is little to worry about
- I now know what sleeping like a baby looks like…I wish I could do that still!
- Even when I go somewhere alone, I still check the backseat to get the baby out, and I also sometimes forget to grab her when we go somewhere…
- Appreciate date night when you can do it…its okay to let the baby be watched by someone else,just not for too long
- Pets are not acceptable babysitters..they are sometimes more baby than the baby!
- Let other people hold the baby! but be fair cause usually everybody wants a turn
- Maintaining your relationship with your partner is still important! Do something sweet, bring home flowers, take the baby to let her sleep and kiss her goodbye!
- Not every friend you have is gonna be so accepting of the fact that your now a father..if friendships need to end then let it cause it happens!
- Always take pictures..you will treasure those moments
- Enjoy every minute of your new life…your a father now and forever and you get to watch your little one grow into a more perfect version of yourself and your partner..what could be better!!!
That time is upon us again. For the first time in 8 years, The United States Presidential Primaries and nomination process has begun anew for both the Democratic and Republican parties. I have always been fascinated with our Presidential Election season as it is just so interesting and hard not to follow.
I am not just your average voter. Though I am registered as a democrat, I will vote for the nominee that I feel is best for the country. Eight years ago I watched then Senator Barack Obama talk about his candidacy for President on The Tonight Show. I researched and followed him and voted for him in the Oregon Primary over Hilary Clinton and then again in the Presidential Election over Senator John McCain. If Clinton won the nomination I would of had no problem voting for McCain with more research and thought. I voted again for the incumbent President Obama over Former Massachusetts Governor Mitt Romney again because I felt Romney would not make as great a President. Though my voting record and many of my beliefs indicate I am liberal, I do not let myself be defined with a political party. If something I believe in happens to be more on the conservative side, so be it.
When we entered this primary season,my liberal voting registration led me to follow the Democratic Primaries more than the Republican, but I was a little underwhelmed. Hilary Clinton was the only candidate I knew about , and I felt like Clinton still wasnt a great candidate. She seemed elitist, and like the same democratic cookie cutter candidate she was eight years ago. I have no problem at all with a woman one day being president, just not her…she isnt the right one and I felt that she is trying to use her position as a woman running for president to get votes from certain crosssections of society. I didnt feel I had a great candidate..until, Enter Bernie Sanders.
I found out about Senator Bernie Sanders from a blurb in my local paper that said he declared his candidacy. I had no idea who he was, being from a state on the other side of the country from his and even less of an idea what he stood for. So, over time I heard more and more about him so I decided to look him up, and I started to like him more and more. Then I watched him on the first debate, and through the endless pandering to Hilary Clinton that the news network covering it was doing, I saw that he was a person who stuck to his laurels and didnt change just to appease voters and I liked him more and more…so I am proud to say that I feel the bern!!!
Now I want to be clear about something..I am not supporting Bernie Sanders because he is promising me free stuff! I am not expecting to be able to go to college for free, I have health insurance through my work for my daughter and I (and my soon to be wife).I doubt that the minimum wage will ever get nationally pushed to 15 dollars an hour. I dont expect a future President Sanders to initiate a sweeping change in the US government. No, the Senate and House would prevent any change, be it good or bad from changing in this country..especially if it involves lightening their wallets.
I support Bernie Sanders because he isnt a cookie cutter Presidential Candidate. He isnt going to pander to big business or the Super PACs or even his own party (though he is in actuality an Independent).
He is a Democratic Socialist, and before you say “Isnt that like communism?” look it up. Franklin Delano Roosevelt, one of the best Presidents in history was a Democratic Socialist. Now I am in no way insinuating that Sanders will be another FDR but that people should really do their research before making assumptions.
Bernie Sanders is a rogue (but not in the same “in your face” way as Republican candidate Donald Trump). He doesnt follow the Democratic Party hard line and that is refreshing to me..because in the last 16 years of 8 years of Bush and 8 years of Obama, very little has changed in the US..and if this Government is not gonna collapse in on itself it needs to
Feel the Bern,
There has been a tragedy in this country..one among many that have happened in the last few years. Last week, a crazed and mentally unstable man opened fire in a community college in the town of Roseburg,Oregon. He killed ten people and wounded many more before taking his own life. In the wake of this horrendous tragedy one would expect the people of this great country of ours, where patriotism and compassion are supposed to be the hallmarks of a great american citizen…and yet that is not what we got.
Instead of uniting in support for the wounded and the families of the deceased, this country has yet again erupted into a civil war of words over gun rights. The pro gun people take this as “oh god the liberals are gonna try to take my guns away cause somebody shot a bunch of people, i must yell loudly about it” and the anti gun people are saying “oh my god,more gun control laws are needed I must yell about this” and both sides wont stop arguing about it…and it makes me very upset.
This country is completely obsessed with guns,so obsessed that we feel a mass shooting is the perfect time to bring up this argument. Before anybody starts calling me a “tree hugging liberal” or a “gun toting redneck” I will tell you that I am not going to talk about my stance on the subject, as I feel that the time or place for this argument is not now.
I will agree with a few points with both sides though…It is true that even the strictest gun laws will not prevent criminals from getting ahold of guns, and a majority of people who own guns are responsible with them;also that something has to be done about how certain people get ahold of firearms as too many mentally unstable people are using them,,as for what I dont know and I will not speculate. Also,mental health in this country (and most healthcare) is simply deplorable.
This gun control argument that is causing some people I know who are friends to get visibly angry with eachother and has ended a few friendships im sure stems from a deeper rooted problem in this country. The USA has got just so damn jaded and intolerant of other peoples opinion
I love America, I was born here and raised here and I happen to think that our government system that we created by the people for the people is one of the best government systems ever created in world history. We can say what we want and do what we want (within the confines of the law) and where different opinions are supposed to be welcomed..but not anymore. We have become so intolerant of anybody who has a opinion that is different than your own.Both Liberals and Conservatives alike cannot put aside their differences on any subject, even in support of a tragedy. We feel that everything that happens is grounds to start a fight. I see articles on the shooting posted online and it is filled with republican supporters mocking liberals for their stances on guns and some even suggesting violence against people who disagree. I see endless memes on facebook about both pro and anti gun sentiment. I see people suggesting that they boycott the president from offering his support for the families of the victims..it is sickening that people would use this event for such a thing.
End the debate! Lets save it for another time! Lets just offer our support for the victims and their families. If you wanna do something then go and volunteer or donate to help the victims and the families. Stop with the endless memes and quotes from the celebrities supporting their sides and stop with the damn fighting!!! This is why other countries hate america so much..because we have a mass shooting and start arguing with eachother about who is responsible.
Time and place people..time and place
Life has a funny way of catching up to you..and by catching up I mean roaring up from behind in a Porsche and screeching to a halt in front of you. Here I sit, almost exactly 2 months away from the birth of my daughter…from my first child..and I ponder what it means to be a father.
When we look for examples of what fatherhood means, most people often look to examples close to home, as in lessons from our own parental figures.
My father, Lon was a good father to me, and he still is. He has 4 children, myself, who is his oldest and im 26;my younger brother who is 24, my stepsister who he adopted as his own and as far as we are all concerned she is my sister and she is 23 and my youngest half-brother who is 17. Dad has always had to work, for as long as I have been alive he has worked 6 days a week for long hours in order to best provide for our family. Even when my brother and I lived with our mom and we were only with him part time he worked like that. Dad makes a lot of personal sacrifices in order to best keep the family safe,healthy and happy, and one would think that is what a father would do and has to do.
When I was younger I don’t think I fully appreciated everything Dad did for us. I was a teenager and I didnt have everything that a lot of my peers in high school had..no Ipod,no cell phone and I had to earn the right to get my permit and license(which I never did with him, I got it when I turned 18). I wasnt upset about this, I didnt lash out and rebel but I was jealous of my peers and wished we could afford to get all those luxuries but I stayed grounded.
I think what it means to be a father is to be able to put your child and your family above all else, including yourself and often at the expense of your health, wealth and own personal happiness. To work long hours, come home and take care of what you need to and then go to sleep until you are needed again. My father always did this, and I never really appreciated it until now that I am on the cusp of being a father myself.
Will I be successful at being a father? I would hope I would but only time will tell. I am however very excited about it, and am having no delusions of grandeur about running from this or skirting my new responsibilities. My daughter, Mikaila Ann Knieriem will come into the world and be very loved by everyone around her, and especially by her father and mother. I still have some time to prepare for her birth physically and mentally (not even close to the physically as her mother though ha ha)
So to sum it all up, I am so happy for the lessons on fatherhood I learned from my own father and all the other fathers I have been around in my life. I will take their lessons to heart but my parenting style will be my own..good or bad I will pass this test..after all I have to
have a good day
Hi, my name is Devin. I am twenty six years old, in a long term relationship that is going on 9 months (and is definitely leading to more) and here I sit 2 months and some days away from the birth of my girlfriend and my first child..a daughter we named Mikaila Ann, and I am perfectly happy with how things turned out.
Ever since I actually turned twenty years old all I hear about is how your twenties are supposed to be spent (especially after you turn 21) Many people have the idea that your twenties are supposed to be a time of discovery;of having fun with almost all legal restrictions that are on minors lifted. I still know a fair amount of people that like to spend their nights bar hopping in Downtown Eugene and drinking shots and expensive beers and taking a cab home (if they go to their home….). In all honesty I was never really suited for that life..the partying life that many other 20somethings like to live..Dont get me wrong, I did my share of it.
Before I met Sahalie and started down this current path I am on, I wasnt exactly your standard young adult anyway. I had trouble finding a good job until I was 23 and found my current job and also up until last December I was living and helping to take care of my elderly Great-Grandmother. When I did go out, in some cases I would go out by myself and see a rock show downtown, drink a couple beers and go home by 11 or 1130. On some occasions, one of my best friends would invite me out for a night with some of his friends to go out drinking. The people we went out with were his friends…its not that I felt unwanted, but I most of the time felt unnoticed, and that is simply because they didnt know me very well. Im sure that I could of gotten to know most of these people better but my working nights only gave me two night a week to go out doing anything, and it was mostly one night because my first night off would be reserved for me catching up on sleep.
Still yet when I would go out, I would never drink very much. I still lived with my grandmother and I felt it disrespectful to stumble in the house, drunk and pass out on the floor. I was so careful about my alcohol intake that I would use an app on my phone to keep track of my alcohol intake and my Blood Alcohol Intake.
My point of writing this being that I was never suited to the fast partying, loose and fun lifestyle that seems to be almost advertised (in media) as the way to be in your twenties. I was always cautious,and careful and didnt want to make a fool of myself in public. I was never suited to date around..Sahalie is my first true long term relationship and I dont honestly want anyone else. I believe I am well suited to be a father. I want it. People keep asking me “arent you freaking out, you’re young to be having a baby, and young to be a family man…you know what? I am not freaking out because whats there to freak out about! Im ready to be a father, im ready to be a provider and even ready to be a husband one day! This is the life I always wanted, I just didnt really know I wanted it til now.Its true that my soon to be born daughter wasnt exactly planned but not a mistake because mistakes are something you regret. I regret nothing in my life, and if i missed out on a phase in my life so be it! Im having a kid im not dead, im sure my beautiful girlfriend Sahalie and I will go out and do things still, just not all the time.
Im no fun at parties anyway!
Life is what you make it,make it a good one and regret nothing!